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Nan Tepper's avatar

Gah! I love this. It's such a beautiful and important acknowledgment of the caregivers who actually CARE. My primary is such a person. I feel safe with her, seen, and respected. Makes all the difference in the world, and no, it doesn't remove the trauma, but it does ease the way through the hard stuff to have partners in healing. xo

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

truly! given that we use the title “caregiver,” i’ve always assumed care is implicit… i think true care in practice is something we as a society are waking up to, ever so slowly. but waking up we are! i am so glad you have a PCP who creates safety for you, Nan. “partner in healing” — love this phrase! xoxo.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

xoxo!

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Sheridan Cass's avatar

THANK YOU for sharing this. Your art and storytelling are beautiful and moving. So glad to be receiving your newsletters :)

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

ah, thank you, Sheridan! i’m so grateful to be sharing my heart with you in this way. 💛

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Cara Holland's avatar

Today I was clearing some papers and came across some notes I’d written last year when I was drawing at a conference for doctors and consultants here in the UK.

I’d written a quote: “it takes seconds to add compassion. It adds greatly to the experience and the outcomes”.

I’m so glad you met medical staff who understood the value of compassionate care 🦅❤️

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

it truly does take a mere handful of seconds, and the impact is quite literally beyond measure. i feel as if the compassion i’ve received in this exam room has created years worth of healing! i love that you were drawing at that conference, by the way — it’s very evident that compassion beats behind everything that comes out of your pen 💛

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Gail Marlene Schwartz's avatar

Aaaaaaah! Such a thrill to see and read and walk through that beautiful experience with you. Can you post a photo of your tattoo? Inquiring minds want to know. :) I wonder if med school education is shifting to bring in this critical element of care that's so antithetical to capitalism. As always, grateful for your work and your achingly raw and lovely heart.

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SB Rawz's avatar

One small window of possibility: The PA who is my primary care person and with whom I teared up in our first meeting because of just how compassionate and present he is, also teaches upcoming PAs. When I sent him an article on research that shows improved patient outcomes when the practitioner brings the compassion, he immediately shared it with his current class and they apparently had a robust conversation. I like to imagine he's representative and not an exception.

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

this is so beautiful!! oh wow. fills my tender heart with so much hope. i truly think everyone is capable of compassion — it’s simply easy to overlook when non compassionate voices are so loud. i’m thrilled you have this amazing caregiver in your life, SB 🤍

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SB Rawz's avatar

Remembering that it's volume and not might or mass is so helpful to me 💜

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

omg of course! i will upload a pic of my most beautiful tattoo to this post - it was designed by an artist friend and is my favorite part of my body. :)

here’s to creating all of the antithesis to capitalize with this level of compassion! thank you for witnessing my aching open heart, Gail 💛

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K Raffa's avatar

This is just heart melting. I love it so much, and I relate so hard. And yes, it does always come back to birds.

I also love your unique method of combining images and words to tell a story.

Bravo.

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

thank you so much, K! i love that you get it re: birds. and open heartedness. thank you for taking in my truth. 🤍

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K Raffa's avatar

Of course! Your work really resonates with me. Thank you for your courage in sharing it. It is much appreciated. And birds are absolutely magical.

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Michele Peters (she/her)'s avatar

Oh, my. This is so beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. I am proud of you for speaking up about what you need.

I, too, love birds and have a strong connection to the Red Tailed Hawk. I also have a Corvid Cam where I feed the crows in my back yard. Birds = Joy for me right now.

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

thank you, Michele! it certainly isn’t easy to advocate for our personal needs. it’s a practice i am steadily cultivating. i feel immensely gratified to have practiced it in this way — with such a powerful and human response.

birds ARE joy!! i love that you have a Corvid Cam. and that we share this sacred connection with red tails. they are magnificent beings. i can’t name another creature that brings awe to my heart more immediately or directly.

sending you bird love, my friend 🦅

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Feisty Kinglet's avatar

Weeping here reading this. Hugs to you. Oh the blessings of birds and a little kindness.

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

blessings indeed!! many, many hugs back to you, friend.

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DIANA ADMIRE's avatar

OMG…. I HAVENT HAD ONE OF THOSse dreaded paps for over 10 years!

Bravo, hope all is well

Write on dear one,

Di

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

they are dreaded, aren’t they?? thank you for cheering me on, Diana! 💛

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Bryn Knowles (they/them)'s avatar

So good. Kindness and compassion go such a long way. These things ripple, a sort of energy massage to the heart and soul. ✨

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience. You are very brave! 🫂❤️‍🩹

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

energy massage! YES! so beautifully said. can we all energy massage each other??

thank you for witnessing my vulnerability, Bryn 🫶✨

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Bryn Knowles (they/them)'s avatar

Yes Kate! Energy massages for the heart and soul of all of our queer family! I’m for it! 💖🥰

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Amy Cowen's avatar

This is so wonderful, and I love that you not only blurted out "birds" but that they took you up on that and went out of their way to make you feel safe enough to get it done.

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

right?? extraordinary and astonishing. i am still giddy with gratitude. thanks for reading, Amy 🤍

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Phoenix Birch (they/them)'s avatar

Kate, your art and the telling of this story are nourishing to my spirit. As you said, just knowing that this kind of compassion and attentive care is even possible is a wonder, but it's also healing and transformative. I'm so so grateful these winged companions were there with you through this traumatic experience - and birds, always birds. I'm sending you so much love, you brave and beautiful bird human.

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

i have never felt so seen as being named as a bird human! from one beautiful bird soul to another - thank you, Phoenix (ah! phoenix! the most magnificent of winged beings!). honored to have brought some spirit nourishment your way, sweet, sweet friend. ✨🦅

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Rosie B's avatar

Beautiful, thank you for sharing x

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

thanks for reading, Rosie ✨

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Kim Beyer Rausch's avatar

This was so lovely. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

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Kate McGunagle's avatar

thank you so much, Kim! grateful for your readership 💛

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