MDQ KATE! Okay, first I have no idea how I missed your viral post. I will go back and read it. Second, I related to everything you wrote. The coming out, being authentic. I'm really good at disappearing, so, maybe it's no surprise that I miss your viral post. I have to duck out every now and then. Third, I'm so happy you're not rebranding MDQ, because hope resides here already. You don't have to change a thing, just roll with the changes that happen naturally. Maybe the disappearing acts are why we haven't scheduled that much needed, much mentioned Zoom? And fourth, I detected a smidge of "maybe you need to embrace Kate and love her for all she's worth" and I endorse that idea wholeheartedly. Love you, sweet YOU. xo
my dearest Nan! i love knowing that you also relate to the periodic ducking out - honestly, i think it’s so necessary and healthy. thank you for the reiteration that hope is already here, and that i don’t have to change to create more of it. there IS a strong stroke of “it’s high time to love and amplify all of me” here — thank you for catching it and validating it, always. (and yes! we need a Zoom soon 🩵) xoxoxo
Thank you, Kate, for your achingly raw honesty and truth-speaking/writing/drawing. You, being who you are, which like all of us changes from moment to moment, is a great gift. As far as I’m concerned (and I suspect I’m not alone in this) you have no need to be anyone other than who you are with any and all changes/variations/ inspirations - whatever you have to offer on any given day is what I’m happy to receive. And in those times when you drop away for a few weeks, that’s fine too. We all need space at times to regroup, ponder, or just be. Take care.
this comment is a gift, Doc! thank you for reflecting back to me some lovely truths here — that we are beings in flux, and that “who we are” isn’t necessarily something fixed but something that eternally evolves. i’ve always felt guilty for changing my mind, but perhaps that’s just been my own coming to terms with what it means to be a self. i thus think that meeting people where they are may be the highest form of love and relatedness out there. thank you for meeting me where i am at, and the true freedom and liberation that offers. grateful that you are here!
There is SO much in here that deeply resonates with me - I feel like I've spent decades peeling off the layers of what I thought others wanted/needed to see in order to show more and more of my real self and gee-dee is it a relief to not be wearing all of that shit anymore! And yes, totally, I still find myself sneaking layers on and having to peel them off (forever and ever amen). I'm celebrating your self-honoring and am so excited to keep engaging with MDQ! 💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🩷🩵
it IS a huge relief, isn’t it? i’m of the belief that we have every right to chase that kind of relief — the type that only emerges when we live according to our vast and inimitable truth. i’m so glad my story has resonated and that you’ve also shed those layers (and understand the complex dance of putting them back on and peeling them back that is, indeed, lifelong)! thank you so much for honoring my shedding and staying with MDQ, my dear friend 🩵🌈
This hit home in ways I didn't expect. Thanks for sharing it and I'm gonna follow up to see if you are interested in sharing your responses to the Queer Love Project questionnaire. I would love to read and learn from what you have to say!
Powerful words, Kate. (I'll always call you Katie in my heart) I have watched you keep being you through the years I've know you and this is the first time I really feel like its YOU being you!! I am so proud of you and your beautiful authentic brave and bold voice.
Ah this is such truth. Happy for your viral post, and so impressed with your process that followed. Grateful you shared it in this way. We are lucky to have the realest you, rather than a hope chameleon. Also I love cats so much. So all the cat content would be a great direction to take your substack (omg jk lol but yes I love them).
“hope chameleon” - i love that! yes, from here on out, you’ll get the realest me. and i LOVE that you love cats. rest assured - they will figure PROMINENTLY in future posts. cat content will be unabashed.
My heart did cartwheels of joy reading this coming out post, Kate! I felt right there with you as you described your internal processing after the viral post (I remember considering rebranding towards hope, too), your revelations and doubling down of commitment to being here as you are, but more visibly. I am cheering so hard to MORE KATE! Yes, please! Everything I learn about who you are makes my love for you grow. I look forward to seeing more of you. And I really look forward to walking in forests and talking to trees with you in Brooklyn, I hope. 🌲🫂💖🫶🏼
Oh Kate, all I can say is that I love you even more today than I did yesterday💜 Send me your address and I promise you I will write you a letter❣️ I hug the trees regularly and talk to Mother Earth every time I’m outside. I miss my kitten so very very much so please send updated photos of yours🐈🐈⬛🤗
i love you, mama J! i love that we share such a powerful medicinal connection to Mama Earth. and let’s be pen pals! i’ll send you all the Ollie pics to fill as much of the Peeta gap as possible 🩵🐈🐈⬛🩵
Your authentic heart always shines through both light and darkness. 💖
ah, thank you, Brenda! i’m looking forward to making those light rays even stronger. i need it — and the world needs it. 🩵
Indeed!
MDQ KATE! Okay, first I have no idea how I missed your viral post. I will go back and read it. Second, I related to everything you wrote. The coming out, being authentic. I'm really good at disappearing, so, maybe it's no surprise that I miss your viral post. I have to duck out every now and then. Third, I'm so happy you're not rebranding MDQ, because hope resides here already. You don't have to change a thing, just roll with the changes that happen naturally. Maybe the disappearing acts are why we haven't scheduled that much needed, much mentioned Zoom? And fourth, I detected a smidge of "maybe you need to embrace Kate and love her for all she's worth" and I endorse that idea wholeheartedly. Love you, sweet YOU. xo
my dearest Nan! i love knowing that you also relate to the periodic ducking out - honestly, i think it’s so necessary and healthy. thank you for the reiteration that hope is already here, and that i don’t have to change to create more of it. there IS a strong stroke of “it’s high time to love and amplify all of me” here — thank you for catching it and validating it, always. (and yes! we need a Zoom soon 🩵) xoxoxo
Thank you, Kate, for your achingly raw honesty and truth-speaking/writing/drawing. You, being who you are, which like all of us changes from moment to moment, is a great gift. As far as I’m concerned (and I suspect I’m not alone in this) you have no need to be anyone other than who you are with any and all changes/variations/ inspirations - whatever you have to offer on any given day is what I’m happy to receive. And in those times when you drop away for a few weeks, that’s fine too. We all need space at times to regroup, ponder, or just be. Take care.
this comment is a gift, Doc! thank you for reflecting back to me some lovely truths here — that we are beings in flux, and that “who we are” isn’t necessarily something fixed but something that eternally evolves. i’ve always felt guilty for changing my mind, but perhaps that’s just been my own coming to terms with what it means to be a self. i thus think that meeting people where they are may be the highest form of love and relatedness out there. thank you for meeting me where i am at, and the true freedom and liberation that offers. grateful that you are here!
There is SO much in here that deeply resonates with me - I feel like I've spent decades peeling off the layers of what I thought others wanted/needed to see in order to show more and more of my real self and gee-dee is it a relief to not be wearing all of that shit anymore! And yes, totally, I still find myself sneaking layers on and having to peel them off (forever and ever amen). I'm celebrating your self-honoring and am so excited to keep engaging with MDQ! 💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🩷🩵
it IS a huge relief, isn’t it? i’m of the belief that we have every right to chase that kind of relief — the type that only emerges when we live according to our vast and inimitable truth. i’m so glad my story has resonated and that you’ve also shed those layers (and understand the complex dance of putting them back on and peeling them back that is, indeed, lifelong)! thank you so much for honoring my shedding and staying with MDQ, my dear friend 🩵🌈
This hit home in ways I didn't expect. Thanks for sharing it and I'm gonna follow up to see if you are interested in sharing your responses to the Queer Love Project questionnaire. I would love to read and learn from what you have to say!
i’m so grateful my story resonated, Jerry! looking forward to participating in the Questionnaire!
What a journey - there and back to your core love of "my dear queer" - thanks for sharing, Kate.
i couldn’t have said it better myself, Troy. thank you for seeing this journey and being a significant part of it!
Wow @Kate!! Keep MDQ QUEER...silly, real, talking to trees, and gloriously they/she please!!
Hearts & flowers,
Tess
“gloriously they/she” is going on a mug! 😻thanks for seeing me, my beautiful friend!
Awe—thank you for seeing me back 🥲
…but! Kate? If you're off making mugs, can you please get me a “Fabulously She/They” ??
Por favor?
So relate to being the chameleon, wanting others to be seen, to give more of the same... thank you for bringing me more awareness on this.
from one recovering chameleon to another, i see you, Lindsay! i’m grateful my story resonated. thank you for reading.
Powerful words, Kate. (I'll always call you Katie in my heart) I have watched you keep being you through the years I've know you and this is the first time I really feel like its YOU being you!! I am so proud of you and your beautiful authentic brave and bold voice.
ah, thank you, Erika! 🩵
You had me at “I love physical letters.”
i’m so glad, Ty! we’re a very specific and unique breed 😌
💙 thank you for this honor My Dear Queer Kate, I’m onboard 🌈🖖
ah, thank you so much, Rick! very grateful to have you on board 🩵🌈
Ah this is such truth. Happy for your viral post, and so impressed with your process that followed. Grateful you shared it in this way. We are lucky to have the realest you, rather than a hope chameleon. Also I love cats so much. So all the cat content would be a great direction to take your substack (omg jk lol but yes I love them).
“hope chameleon” - i love that! yes, from here on out, you’ll get the realest me. and i LOVE that you love cats. rest assured - they will figure PROMINENTLY in future posts. cat content will be unabashed.
MDQ the return! I’m glad. You never need to be anything other than you.
thank you for this beautiful reminder, Cara. and for being here!
My heart did cartwheels of joy reading this coming out post, Kate! I felt right there with you as you described your internal processing after the viral post (I remember considering rebranding towards hope, too), your revelations and doubling down of commitment to being here as you are, but more visibly. I am cheering so hard to MORE KATE! Yes, please! Everything I learn about who you are makes my love for you grow. I look forward to seeing more of you. And I really look forward to walking in forests and talking to trees with you in Brooklyn, I hope. 🌲🫂💖🫶🏼
Oh Kate, all I can say is that I love you even more today than I did yesterday💜 Send me your address and I promise you I will write you a letter❣️ I hug the trees regularly and talk to Mother Earth every time I’m outside. I miss my kitten so very very much so please send updated photos of yours🐈🐈⬛🤗
i love you, mama J! i love that we share such a powerful medicinal connection to Mama Earth. and let’s be pen pals! i’ll send you all the Ollie pics to fill as much of the Peeta gap as possible 🩵🐈🐈⬛🩵
Im so glad you kept the name!
thanks Kara! me too!